One down, 51 to go…. by SJV
2018/01/08  |  By:   |  Features  |  

So, there are just 51 weeks left before we can all raise our glasses to another year over and my question is, what will you have done?

Lost a few pounds or helped fund the cure for cancer? Put an end to inequality and injustice or global warming? Learnt a language or climbed a mountain? Done your bit to end world hunger or the tampax tax? Recycled or reused? Digital detoxed or fived a day every day? Regularly bullet journaled or packed lunched?

Quite a big list of hopes and dreams to achieve in 365 days isn’t it?

I purposely made not one single New Year New Me resolution for this year. Not because I don’t have thousands of ways I’d like to do ‘better’ this year, more so because 30 odd years of failed resolutions has taught me I don’t have what it takes to keep them up. No willpower, easily distracted, a bit of a quitter. And nobody likes a quitter, do they? The guilt, oh the massive levels of guilt, I’ve carried around me over the years that I’ve failed to lose weight, volunteer, moisturise, learn a skill… it’s exhausting being such a looser, especially when the only person you’re really letting down is yourself.

So this year, I decided to take one aspect of this ‘kindness’ fad I keep being told to get on-board with, and that was to be a bit kinder to myself. To not set myself up to fail, but rather to embrace the idea that I’d like to accept myself, finally, for who and what I am, with just a bit of wiggle room to tweak. Take a leaf out of the old quote book and say ‘God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.’

So this year I won’t over promise at work, but I’ll keep working hard every day.  I won’t say yes to every social invitation, but will make sure I see the people I love more often. I’ll eat without the guilt – and yes, that includes cake.  I’ll listen to Oprah and always speak my truth. And if that truth is that I’ll never be the kind of person who drinks 2 litres of water a day, then so be it….