One down, 51 to go…. by SJV
So, there are just 51 weeks left before we can all raise our glasses to another year over and my question is, what will you have done?
Lost a few pounds or helped fund the cure for cancer? Put an end to inequality and injustice or global warming? Learnt a language or climbed a mountain? Done your bit to end world hunger or the tampax tax? Recycled or reused? Digital detoxed or fived a day every day? Regularly bullet journaled or packed lunched?
Quite a big list of hopes and dreams to achieve in 365 days isn’t it?
I purposely made not one single New Year New Me resolution for this year. Not because I don’t have thousands of ways I’d like to do ‘better’ this year, more so because 30 odd years of failed resolutions has taught me I don’t have what it takes to keep them up. No willpower, easily distracted, a bit of a quitter. And nobody likes a quitter, do they? The guilt, oh the massive levels of guilt, I’ve carried around me over the years that I’ve failed to lose weight, volunteer, moisturise, learn a skill… it’s exhausting being such a looser, especially when the only person you’re really letting down is yourself.
So this year, I decided to take one aspect of this ‘kindness’ fad I keep being told to get on-board with, and that was to be a bit kinder to myself. To not set myself up to fail, but rather to embrace the idea that I’d like to accept myself, finally, for who and what I am, with just a bit of wiggle room to tweak. Take a leaf out of the old quote book and say ‘God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.’
So this year I won’t over promise at work, but I’ll keep working hard every day. I won’t say yes to every social invitation, but will make sure I see the people I love more often. I’ll eat without the guilt – and yes, that includes cake. I’ll listen to Oprah and always speak my truth. And if that truth is that I’ll never be the kind of person who drinks 2 litres of water a day, then so be it….